The History Behind Wedding Superstitions
By Rachel Pickett
Everything we do when we say "I do" is significant. From the kiss to the
tossing of the bridal bouquet everyone has their favorite part of the wedding.
Despite the romantic undertones of today's weddings, few traditions began with
love in mind. Ancient wedding were actually for property or land. If two
families were married it meant they became more powerful, and usually had more
land.
The walk down the aisle is one of the most frightening and favorite
experiences for the new bride. The walk down the aisle used to symbolize what
little freedom the bride had. The father would walk his daughter down the aisle
transferring ownership of not only his daughter but usually goods, animals, and
land. Both families were made richer by weddings in these days.
Everyone dreams of having all their family and close friends at their wedding
these days. Witnesses used to attend weddings in order to make it officially
binding by law. In the days before everything was documented for the government
people attended weddings specifically to be a witness. The families usually sat
on opposite sides because it kept them from arguing and fighting which has not
been rare throughout history, since many families often did not like each other.
Traditionally the bride stands on the left of the groom during the ceremony.
This tradition developed during medieval times when men carried swords. If the
bride stood on the right side she would have blocked his sword making it
impossible for him to protect her, so the bride stands to the left and has ever
since. During this time the term best man was also created. Typically the best
man at the wedding was the best swordsman also.
Why are there bridesmaids? Today many people choose to have bridesmaids
because of tradition, and for fun. Since the middle ages bridesmaids have been
responsible for helping with the preparation of the wedding. In the beginning
bridesmaids were simply hired or slave help, and they did not walk the aisle.
During the formation of our country bridesmaids used to dress exactly like the
bride because of spiritual superstition. People believed if they all dressed
exactly like the bride evil spirits wouldn't know which girl was being married
and couldn't harm her. Today bridesmaid dresses vary in style from the bride's
gown.
There are many spiritual superstitions surrounding weddings. The bridal
bouquet was at first a satchel of herbs meant to protect the bride from evil
spirits. Only later did the satchel become a bouquet of flowers. Clinking of
glasses during the reception was also believed to keep evil spirits from harming
the new marriage; it was believed the spirits didn't like boisterous noise.
Apart from evil superstition people also believed that weddings were symbols
of good luck. This is how the tradition of the garter toss and bridal bouquet
toss were developed. People believed to take something of the brides would bring
good luck. Hopes of fertility also surrounded weddings for a very long time. The
guests at a wedding believed the bride would become pregnant soon after the
wedding if she were the first to eat the cake. Throwing rice after the ceremony
was also meant to signify fertility in the hopes the new couple would have many
children.
Contrary to popular thought, brides today wear white because of fashion.
Prior to 1840 when Queen Victoria wore white lace to her wedding, brides wore
their best dress. Wedding dresses at this time were many colors. The veil, meant
to symbolize purity came from a tradition where the groom kidnapped the bride.
If a man could get a girl away from her family long enough they were basically
married. When the brides were kidnapped their faces were covered with a white
cloth which has now become a veil.
The kiss at the end of the ceremony symbolizes the binding union that the
husband and wife have to each other. Some people believed when the bride and
groom kissed for the first time they shared a part of their soul. The ring,
meant to symbolize the bond of marriage is worn on the fourth finger of the left
hand because it was believed there was a vein that in that finger that ran to
the heart. The first wedding bands were made of grass and hay. Today traditional
wedding bands are made of gold. During World War II men in the United States
began to wear wedding bands because they wanted a way to remember their wives
while at war. Today both the husband and wife wear wedding bands.
Over the years the beginnings of most of these wedding traditions have been
forgotten. Today weddings are about love and family. Although the traditions
hold different meanings today they are still as important as they were hundreds
of years ago.
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