You may have seen the film "Big Fat Greek Wedding" but what does the Greek

Orthodox wedding ceremony really involve? It has remained unchanged for

centuries and is full of symbolism - attending one is likely to be a very

different experience for anyone from Western Europe or the US.

The wedding service in the Greek Orthodox faith is an ancient and beautiful

ceremony, which has been celebrated in its current form for centuries. The

wedding ceremony is full of symbolism and is a great experience if you have

never attended one before, because it is likely to be quite different from other

weddings you have attended in Western Europe. The service is also rather unique

because the bride and groom do not make vows to each other -- their presence

together in the church is taken to mean that they are serious about getting

married. There are no wedding rehearsals and the ceremony usually has a very

relaxed atmosphere - guests take photos whenever they want to and often chat

quietly among themselves throughout the ceremony.

The Beginning of the Wedding

In most cases the wedding guests will wait with the groom outside the church

until the bride arrives (a few sneaky wedding pros will go into the church early

to secure a good seat). In the Summer, when most weddings take place, it is not

unusual for ceremonies to be arranged back to back, so the guests attending a

marriage will often stand around with those who have just attended the previous

wedding are ready to leave. Wedding dress commentators among the crowd will get

to consider and discuss at least two brides and maybe even a third as they leave

the church -- bargain! Meanwhile, the groom waits for the bride at the entrance

to the church, often holding her floral bouquet. He hands it to her as they meet

and they then go inside together followed by the guests. There is no separation

of the guests into guests of the bride and guests of the groom -- everyone sits

together and in the case of small churches, many people prefer to stand in a

spot where they can get a good view of the proceedings.

Service of Betrothal

The wedding ceremony itself is in two parts: the Service of Betrothal and the

Ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage. The exchanging of rings is the focus of

the Service of Betrothal. The priest blesses the rings by holding them in his

right hand and making the sign of the cross over the heads of the bride and

groom. The rings are then placed on the third fingers of their right hands. The

Koumbaro, the couple's religious sponsor, then swaps the rings over between the

bride and groom's fingers, three times. A number of rituals in the ceremony are

repeated three times and this symbolizes the Holy Trinity: God the Father, the

Son and the Holy Spirit.

Ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage

This Ceremony consists of several key parts. First, several prayers are said

and then as they come to an end, the priest joins the right hands of the bride

and groom. Their hands remain joined until the end of the wedding ceremony,

which symbolizes the couple's union.

The Crowning

The bride and groom are crowned with thin crowns, or stefana, which are

joined by a white ribbon and have been blessed by the priest. The crowns

symbolize the glory and honor that is being bestowed on them by God, and the the

ribbon symbolizes their unity. The koumbaro then exchanges the crowns between

the heads of the couple, three times.

The Common Cup

The crowning is followed by a reading of the Gospel, which tells of the

marriage of Cana at Galilee. It was at this wedding that Jesus performed his

first miracle, changing water into wine, which was then given to the married

couple. Wine is given to the couple and they each drink from it three times.

The Ceremonial Walk

The priest the leads the couple, who are still wearing their stefana, three

times around the altar on their first steps as a married couple. The Koumbaro

follows close behind the couple holding the stefana place. At this point the

couple (and anyone standing nearby) is usually showered with rice, which was

earlier handed out to the wedding guests. The priest will often make use of the

bible he is holding to give himself some protection!

The Removal of the Crowns

When the Ceremonial Walk has ended, the priest blesses the couple, the crowns

are removed and he then separates their previously joined hands with the bible,

reminding them that only God can break the union which they have just entered

into.

Wedding traditions

Unfortunately, a lot of the information available on Greek Orthodox wedding

traditions is a little outdated and contains generalizations that give the

impression that certain traditions are followed by everyone who gets married.

Some of these traditions are set out below.

The baking of bread and cakes containing coins.

Rolling a baby on the marital bed to encourage fertility.

The throwing of money onto the marital bed.

The pinning of money onto the bride (and sometimes also the groom) at the

wedding reception.

Although these rituals are seen as traditional, fewer and fewer young people

marrying today are following them, because they are seen as old-fashioned. Many

people do not wish to put their guests through the ordeal of other people being

able to see how much money they pin on the bride, for example. Although money is

still a very common, as well as practical, wedding present it is often given to

the couple before the wedding day or to a third person at the wedding reception,

for safe-keeping. Greeks living in the more remote parts of Greece and abroad,

who will naturally feel more strongly about doing things the traditional way,

are more likely to follow these traditions than those living in Athens, for

example. Like weddings in many places, Greek weddings are changing. At the time

of writing, there is a growing fashion to go and get married on an island and I

recently heard someone say that he was looking into getting married in a ski

resort. He was wisely advised by a friend: "You had better first ask the priest

if he wants to perform a marriage up a mountain"!